Friends: Trust keeps your healthy

    Good friends is to have to not only our emotional well-being of importance: Trusting relationships, whether the form of a partnership or friendship lived in, Article condition is the key to health and longevity. This is demonstrated by numerous research findings from medicine and psychology.
    From the behavioral medicine, the relationship is to a person familiar classified as a particular aspect of social support. In various studies showed that familiarity is an important link between Freud community health: people who have at least one trusted friend or girlfriend, are far less than others affected by chronic health problems such as high blood pressure, asthma or cardiovascular diseases, they are psychologically resilient and less vulnerable to depression and anxiety.
    "A major British study showed that a relationship of familiarity the lives of women by an average of four, the men even extended by five years," said Prof. Dr. Edward Hoffman, a professor of psychology at Yeshiva University in New York.

    Friends protect against stress 

    How can the health benefits but by a good friend or tell a good friend? A friend can be helpful to make better and more accurate decisions in areas of life such as work, family and health. This can reduce the vulnerability to the stresses of everyday life.
    Other hand, if only to prevent the possibility of being able to talk about his intimate feelings and concerns, an escape in unhealthy behavior. "Relationships, that is a partnership, friends and colleagues to make balanced and happy," said the Viennese psychologist Mag Heide-Marie Smolka.
    On the other hand: "Who smokes carry around worry, anxiety and stress with them permanently, more, eat too much and takes too unhealthy, quick to drugs and favors a more passive lifestyle, characterized by high television consumption and withdrawal," said the American psychologist.

    Friends have to trust each 

    Especially in the age of Twitter, Facebook and Co, the label "friend" will be awarded soon.One must, however, that health effects only go out of friendships and partnerships that are characterized by mutual trust. A really good friend weighs much heavier than a thousand casual Internet, SMS or event acquaintances.
    Avoid therefore do not aim at investing in close friendships! That's only if you take the time for your friend, your friend, your partner or your partner and if you develop the right feeling for closeness and distance.

    How do you keep a friendship alive?

    • Be authentic, open and communicate clearly, how kind you may be, no one can empathize with you and help you if you put it in very vague sense of things. "My job makes me depressed" is much clearer than if they remain vague: "Something is very difficult for me lately."
    • Familiarity is based: A trusted relationship must be reciprocal in the exchange of feelings and problems to give and take. It is important to listen as readily as on their own things to talk. It is important to show genuine interest in the lives of others.
    • Do not overextend your confidant. Familiarity does not mean that you unload all the problems in the other. Here you should be selective and consider: It is counterproductive and not very sensitive, use the other for every little thing as a soul garbage dump Lead.
    • Show your gratitude: Nobody wants to be used only as the Western Wall, without at least recognition to read it. A confidant is not a doctor or therapist must listen to us. Gratitude can be expressed in various ways.
    • Learn and grow in intimate relationship - for example, by soliciting feedback. Feel free to ask not your confidant whether he has the impression that you learned something and you really followed his advice possess.Bear to his honest opinion.
    • Every relationship needs balance. Share your worries and problems not only with your confidant, but also your joys and successes. Familiarity does not mean that you can press down together by the burden of emotional and other problems, but it cushions such as laughter and shared enjoyment. (Psychology Today, May 2010)

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