Lovesick makes young people and adults from time to establish. Sport and conversations with good friends can ease the heartache.
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Almost everyone makes it at least once in life, regardless of age, gender and education. For the lovesick is a common, but only vague psychological phenomenon investigated.
"He is in adolescents and young adults the most common triggers for suicide, the second highest cause of death in this age group after accidents," said the emotion psychologist Annette Schmitt of the University of Oldenburg. But older people to separate from long-term partners often throws off track.
Many then seek help with psychological counselor Silvia Fauck, in Hamburg even runs a practice for lovesick. Incidentally, the only one in Germany. Many suffer from anxiety and depression, feel as if someone knives in their guts rummage with sleep, can not find anything to cry, suffer from anorexia or binge eating, and are plagued by savage revenge.
Organize thoughts
"I order the thoughts of my clients to cleanse their minds and give them strength and motivation to return to strengthen their self-esteem," says Fauck. The reactions of people who lose the love of another or the impossibility of fulfilling their longings are disappointed about vary from mild, short forms of the lovesick to long despair.
When the suffering so great, that goes out every joy of life, we no longer can meet its daily obligations, and close themselves off alcohol or drugs accesses, is professional help from psychiatrists or psychotherapists necessary.
"To cope with heartbreak, grief does work," says Schmitt. A painful learning process, in which it comes, let go and catch himself. "It is quite normal if someone after 20 years and then melancholy of his lost childhood sweetheart, also indulges in, or loss of longtime partner through death to end his own life mourns."
is healthy, who is free after Freud "likable and work" was, says the lecturer. But until then it is for many who suffer from heartbreak, a long way.
Time heals emotional wounds
What helps in the first place is time - and some day a new love. Until then, friends have good conversations with important sport to reduce stress hormones, distraction by enterprises and the courage to go their own way.
The psychologist and author Doris Wolf ("If the partner is") does well in separations, the opportunity for inner growth and a new beginning. My colleague Peter Lauster considered "lovesick as a way of maturing." The author Gerti Senger ("lovesick. A Chance" is convinced) that lovesick personal development and contribute to the creative potential can also release.
At least people are starting many in such a situation, to renovate her apartment to write lyrics or poems and diary. Men go with a different way than women to lovesickness.
Men feel differently
"Men love to feel the failure of a personal failure and loss of face. You are predatory artist and search almost at once a new partner - and so is the issue they care for," says Fauck ("lovesick - When the heart threatens to break").
But women think they are often to blame when a relationship breaks down. "Women suffer more lovesick than men to experience more depression, anger, self doubt and somatic complaints," noted psychologist Ina Grau of the University of Bielefeld, in a study of firm. Women go through the stages of separation Fauck experience, but thoroughly and learn from it for life. (Apa / dpa / Zarzer / call, 09.06.2006)
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